Neurodivergent Couples Therapy & Coaching
Neurodivergent Love Is Not Broken.
Honest, steady support for neurodivergent couples and adults who are done trying to fit a mold that was never made for them. You don't need the right words, the right diagnosis, or the right story. You need a space for neurodivergent couples therapy & coaching that moves at the speed of your nervous system.
Therapy & Assessments in California · Coaching Worldwide · 80% Couples · 20% Assessments & Individuals
How We Can Help
Are You and/or Your Partner Neurodivergent?
Whether you're part of a neurodivergent relationship or are an individual, this work is designed to support your nervous system — not push past it. When safety, pacing, and communication styles truly align, healing and connection become more sustainable — especially for autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, and trauma-impacted adults.
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Stuck in the Same Loop
Are you longing for a real connection in your neurodiverse relationship, but stuck in the same painful patterns — no matter how hard you both keep trying?
The path forward isn't trying harder. It's finally understanding how you're each wired — and building from there.
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Carrying It Alone
Are you exhausted from carrying the emotional weight in your relationship with a neurodivergent partner, wondering if support could finally feel like it fits you, too?
You have needs. They matter. And you don't have to keep disappearing into the role of the one who holds it all.
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Ready to Understand Your Wiring
Are you a late-diagnosed or self-identified neurodivergent adult craving clarity, self-trust, and support that finally honors how your brain — and heart — actually work?
You're not broken. You were just never given a map that fit. This is the map.
What I Offer
Five Ways for Us to Work Together
Every offering is designed for neurodivergent nervous systems — paced, affirming, and built on the Neurodivergent Spiral of Life.
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Couples Therapy & Coaching
For neurodiverse couples ready to understand each other's wiring and build a partnership that fits how you both actually function.
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Partners of Neurodivergent Adults
Support for the partner carrying the emotional weight — including Cassandra Syndrome, AfDD, and OTRS — so your needs finally matter, too.
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Therapy for Autistic & ADHD Adults
Individual therapy for late-diagnosed autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD adults navigating identity, unmasking, and self-trust.
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Balance & Bonding Retreat
A two-day private intensive for one neurodiverse couple — virtual or in-person — to reset, reconnect, and create a real plan together.
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The Love Lab
An ongoing weekly online group for 3–4 neurodiverse couples — small enough that every partnership gets real attention.
Get Evaluated
Adult Autism, ADHD & AuDHD Assessments
Understanding your neurodivergent wiring can change everything — in your relationships, your work, and the way you see yourself. Our comprehensive assessments go beyond surface assumptions, offering clinical depth and real clarity.
Whether you're exploring Autism, ADHD, or AuDHD — or wondering if it might be a combination — a professional assessment gives you language, validation, and a foundation to build from.
Our assessments are available to people in California only.
Adult Autism Assessment
Comprehensive, affirming evaluation for late-diagnosed and high-masking adults. 5 sessions · $1,500
Adult ADHD Assessment
Gold-standard diagnostic tools that honor your lived experience and daily patterns. 3 sessions · $900
AuDHD Assessment
The most comprehensive evaluation — for when one diagnosis still doesn't tell the whole story. $1,800
Telehealth · California Only
All assessments completed online from the comfort of your home, anywhere in California.
Experience Private or Group Support
Seeking a Private Couples Retreat or Ongoing Weekly Group Support?
Discover new ways to connect and grow. Our private couples retreat and weekly support group are designed to honor your unique neurodivergent experiences — helping you build deeper understanding, trust, and connection in a steady, compassionate space.
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Balance & Bonding: A Two-Day Private Neurodiverse Couples Retreat
Ready to reconnect and rebuild your relationship in a space that truly understands neurodivergence? Reserve your spot for the Balance & Bonding Time Retreat — a private, two-day experience designed to bring clarity, connection, and healing to your partnership.
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The Love Lab: A Weekly Ongoing Online Neurodiverse Couples Group
A small, intentional weekly group for neurodiverse couples who want more understanding, connection, and emotional safety in their relationship. Limited to 3–4 couples so every partnership gets real attention in a space that feels genuinely safe.
Enrolling now for Fall 2026 —
Listen to the Podcast
Now Streaming: Love on the Autism Spectrum Podcast
New episodes every Wednesday
Real conversations for neurodivergent adults and couples — grounded guidance, nervous-system-aware support, and honest talk from someone who truly gets it. No performance, no toxic positivity. Just clarity, care, and the occasional deep breath.
Each episode slows things down and makes room for the patterns that actually shape neurodiverse relationships — without blame, pressure, or performance.
Host: Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, MA, LMFT
For deeper reflections on neurodivergent love and coming home to yourself, find me on Substack at blazelazarony.substack.com
Latest Episode
Love on the Autism Spectrum
New episodes every Wednesday — real conversations, nervous-system-aware support, honest talk.
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If you are starting to wonder about yourself
If you are the one holding it together
If the two of you keep missing each other
If reading these has you wanting to talk it through with someone, you can book a FREE 20-minute “Clarity & Connection” Zoom session. No agenda, just a look at what is happening between you.
Founder
Hi, I'm Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony
"I see you. I was you. I am you. And you are not alone…anymore."
I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #151788, neurodivergent couples specialist, and founder of Love on the Autism Spectrum (she/her/they).
I work with neurodivergent couples and individuals who are tired of trying to make approaches work that were never designed for how their minds and nervous systems actually function.
I've been in a neurodiverse marriage for over 40 years. I discovered my own neurodivergence at 57 — and when the relief set in, it felt like coming home to myself for the first time.
I hold a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology from Sofia University, with advanced training in Autism, ADHD, and Complex Trauma. I'm the creator of the Neurodivergent Spiral of Life and the author of Unmasked Self-Acceptance: 365 Days of Coming Home to Who You Really Are.
My work is trauma-informed, neurodiversity-affirming, and grounded in one simple belief: neurodivergent love doesn't need to be fixed. It needs to be understood and intentionally designed.
You deserve a relationship that feels steady. You deserve to be seen. And you are not alone anymore.
Ready to Connect?
Let's Begin Your Next Chapter
Whether you're burnt out from holding it all, overwhelmed by emotional disconnection, or simply ready for something that actually fits —
You don't have to shrink, mask, or perform anymore. You get to feel safe, seen, and supported.
When you're ready, I invite you to Book a FREE 20-minute "Clarity & Connection” Zoom session — a gentle, no-pressure conversation to explore what support and working with me could look like for you.
No pressure. Just presence.
Prefer to email or call? See all ways to reach Blaze →
"Take a breath. Settle in. I'm so glad you're here."
