Autism, ADHD, and C-Trauma in Relationships Blog
Masking in Women: Embracing Strength and Self-Acceptance with ADHD
Do you think you understand ADHD masking in women? What if there's another layer to it? Could it be that the act of ADHD masking—hiding one's true self to fit in—is both a protective shield and a heavy burden? Masking in women...
Unveiling the Impact of Emotional Masking on Mental Health
Have you ever felt the pressure to hide your emotions in fear of judgment or rejection? This phenomenon, known as emotional masking, can take a toll on mental health and relationships. In this blog post, we will explore the concept of emotional masking, its impact on...
Mastering Healthy Boundaries in Relationships: A Guide
Do you ever feel overwhelmed, drained, or disrespected in your relationships? Healthy boundaries, including boundary setting, are the foundation of balanced, fulfilling connections. They allow us to protect our well-being, nurture respectful relationships, and...
What It Feels Like to Have AuADHD: Living at the Intersection
Do you have AuADHD? You’re not alone if you’ve always felt a little “off script”—like the world was moving at a rhythm that didn’t match yours, making it challenging to lead an everyday life. For many adults, the journey toward understanding themselves begins with...
How To Be An Adult In Relationships: A Guide to Love
David Richo's How to Be an Adult in Relationships is a masterful book that emphasizes mutual respect, mature communication, and fostering growth. This book is the foundation for all my work with couples, and this post introduces key points from the book. Key Takeaways...
Autism Interoception: The Elusive Undercurrent of Health
Have you ever paid attention to the rhythm of your heartbeat when you’re nervous or noticed how your stomach churns when you’re anxious? Often overlooked internal sensations form the basis of interoception – an essential yet often overlooked aspect of our mental and...
Tips to Revive Your AuADHD Sexless Marriage Tonight!
Yes, AuADHD Sexless marriages happen. They happen more often than you think, especially in relationships where one or both partners have combined Autism and ADHD (AuADHD). It’s not a failure. It’s not hopeless. But it is more common in neurodivergent relationships—and...
Effective Strategies to Reduce Anxiety in Autistic Adults
Reducing anxiety in autistic adults can be a challenge, but there are effective strategies that can make a difference. In this article, you’ll learn how to reduce anxiety in autistic adults using practical, evidence-based techniques. From understanding anxiety’s root...
How to Heal Your Trauma: Tips and Techniques for Lasting Recovery
Healing from trauma is challenging, yet with proper tools and support, recovery is achievable. In this blog post, let’s embark on this transformative path toward resilience and emotional well-being as we explore how to heal your trauma. Key Takeaways Understanding...
Navigating Overwhelming Feelings: Tips for Finding Balance
Do you sometimes feel like you're drowning in an ocean of too many responsibilities,, emotions, and stress? You’re not alone. Overwhelming feelings can affect anyone, and learning to manage them is crucial for maintaining mental well-being. In this blog post, we’ll...
Unlocking the Power of the Highly Sensitive Person Inside You
You might be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) if you often feel deeply affected by others' emotions or find yourself easily overwhelmed by loud noises and bright lights. This unique trait, found in around 20% to 30% of the global population, can be both a gift and a...
Conquering ADHD Overwhelm: Effective Strategies for Everyday
Are you feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, struggling to learn how to control and manage your ADHD overwhelm symptoms? It’s time to break free from the clutches of ADHD burnout! In this blog post, we’ll delve into the unique challenges of ADHD, explore the signs of...
Unlocking Love: The Power of Autism Couples Therapy
Imagine a relationship where your unique ways of thinking and feeling are fully embraced, celebrated, and supported. A neurodiverse relationship, where one or both partners are on the autism spectrum, presents unique challenges and opportunities for growth. That’s the...
Autism Marriage Problems: Strategies for Navigating Relationships
A neurodiverse marriage, where one partner is on the autism spectrum, brings unique challenges and opportunities, often leading to autism spectrum disorders and marriage problems. Romantic relationships for autistic individuals come with unique challenges, such as...
The 8 F’s of Trauma Response: How to Better Understand Your Body
Trauma survivors often have to cope with various physical and emotional symptoms. While not everyone responds in the same way, eight common “F” words can help you understand your body's response to a traumatic event. By learning more about these responses to traumatic...
Autism and Emotional Intimacy for Neurodiverse Couples
Embracing the Power of Emotional Intimacy in Autistic Adults Emotional intimacy is the backbone of any thriving relationship, especially for an autistic adult. Yet, it remains an elusive concept for many neurodiverse couples, people with Autism Spectrum Disorder,...
Navigating the Storm: The Hidden Symptoms of Complex PTSD
Do you find yourself spinning from one emotional extreme to the other? Are your relationships constantly in turmoil? Does it feel like there’s no end in sight for your struggles with depression, anxiety, and personal chaos? You may be dealing with Complex Post...
How ADHD Impacts Relationships in Everyday Life
Have you ever wondered how ADHD impacts relationships? Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) can significantly impact romantic relationships. For couples where one or both partners have ADHD, navigating the complexities of daily life can pose unique...
Understanding and Spotting Autistic Burnout One Step at a Time
Imagine constantly trying to adapt to a world that doesn't understand you. For many autistic adults, this is a daily reality, often resulting in a debilitating condition known as autistic burnout. Autistic children also face significant challenges with self-care and...
Effective Communication in Neurodiverse Relationships
Effective communication in neurodiverse relationships is critical, especially true for neurodiverse couples, where different ways of processing information, including conditions like autism spectrum disorder, ADHD, and OCD, can sometimes lead to misunderstandings. But...
Insights into Pathological Demand Avoidance Treatment
Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) presents unique challenges for individuals and their families. This intricate condition, marked by extreme avoidance of everyday demands, is considered a profile or subtype within autism spectrum disorder (ASD), sharing...
Exploring Autism and Sexuality: A Comprehensive Overview
Autism and sexuality are often overlooked in mainstream conversations, yet they are deeply important topics that deserve more attention. Sexuality is a fundamental part of human identity, and for autistic individuals, exploring and understanding their sexual needs and...
AuADHD: Exploring Autistic and ADHD Symptoms in Adults
The intricate dance of human interactions can prove challenging for anyone. Still, for many adults with AuADHD, meaning that one person has both autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), this dance can feel like navigating a...
Understanding Your Husband with Autism: Tips for Women
Navigating the complexities of a relationship is never easy, but when you think your husband has autism spectrum disorder (ASD), the challenges can be even more significant. How can you best support him, understand his unique perspective, and build a successful...
Neurodivergence: A Comprehensive Guide for Everyone
Did you know that approximately 30% of the population has a neurodivergent condition, such as Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), a learning disability, or an intellectual disability? Neurodivergence is the natural...
Coping and Thriving After a Late-in-Life Autism Diagnosis: YES You Can!
A late-in-life autism diagnosis can be life-changing. Autism is one of several neurodevelopmental disorders that can be diagnosed later in life. It can change how you see yourself and how you understand your past. Many adults live with undiagnosed autism, which can...
Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: Neurodiversity Thru Love
Are you struggling to cope with the symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD)and Neurodiversity? Are you feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, and like no one understands your pain? It's time to break free from that cycle and find comfort in love and...
What Does Healthy Anger Look Like? Embracing David Richo’s Insights
Anger is a universal human emotion, yet it often carries a negative connotation. However, anger is a 'natural emotion' that, when appropriately managed, can lead to personal growth. What if we told you that when understood and managed correctly, anger can catalyze...
A Guide: Neurotypical vs Neurodivergent Communication
In a world where diversity is celebrated, it's vital to recognize that our brains, too, contribute to the rich tapestry that makes us unique. Neurodiversity – the concept that neurological variations are a natural and valuable form of human diversity – has gained...
Unlocking Alexithymia: A Silence of Emotional Expression
Imagine the world of emotions as a vibrant, colorful landscape, where each hue represents a different feeling. Now, picture a person navigating this landscape, unable to discern the colors and struggling to communicate their inner experiences at a speed that feels...
Read About Autism in Relationships and More
Hi, I’m Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, the founder of Love on the Autism Spectrum and the voice behind the Autism in Relationships blog. I’m a neurodivergent therapist and coach with a Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Sofia University and advanced training in Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, and Complex Trauma.
I specialize in working with couples who’ve seen too many traditional therapists and still feel stuck. With over 22 years of clinical and coaching experience—and more than 40 years in a neurodivergent relationship myself—I help partners bridge communication gaps, rebuild emotional safety, and connect in ways that actually work.
Through therapy, coaching, adult Autism and ADHD assessments, couples intensives, retreats, and community spaces, I support clients in creating relationships that feel emotionally safe, fulfilling, and real.
My work is trauma-informed, neurodiversity-affirming, and grounded in deep respect for each person’s nervous system, lived experience, and truth. I understand the heartbreak of feeling misunderstood—and the healing that happens when both people feel truly seen.
Love and Autism, ADHD, and complex trauma can coexist beautifully.
Let me help you write a love story that finally feels like home.