Individual Therapy & Coaching · California
You're Not Too Much. You've Just Never Had the Right Space.
Individual therapy for autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD adults who are tired of adapting, masking, and unmasking alone — in a space finally built for how you actually work.
Therapy in California · Telehealth Statewide · Neurodivergent-Affirming
You Are Not Broken
You Are Neurodivergent. And There Is a Difference
Many clients come to therapy wondering if they're simply "bad at life." They're not. Society often demands that neurodivergent people mask, conform, and override their own needs in order to belong — and then shames them when they burn out from the effort.
This therapy doesn't ask you to perform neurotypicality. It asks what you actually need — and builds from there.
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You've been masking for years
You've learned to perform neurotypicality so well that most people have no idea what it actually costs you. You're tired of carrying that.
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You're in or near burnout
Autistic and ADHD burnout is real — and it looks different from ordinary exhaustion. If you've hit a wall that rest isn't fixing, this is worth exploring.
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You were recently diagnosed
Late diagnosis brings relief and grief in equal measure. Having a space to process that — without having to explain what it means — matters.
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Previous therapy didn't fit
You've been treated for anxiety, depression, or trauma — and something still doesn't fit. Neurodivergence often underlies or complicates these, and most therapists miss it.
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Relationships feel impossibly hard
Social rules, unspoken expectations, emotional processing differences — navigating relationships when you're neurodivergent takes a particular kind of support.
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You want to understand your wiring
Not to fix yourself. To understand yourself — how your brain works, what it needs, and how to build a life that actually fits who you are.
15–20%
Of the world's population is
neurodivergent — many unidentified
57
Age Blaze discovered her own
neurodivergence — late ID is real
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Anxiety, depression & burnout rates
are significantly higher in undiagnosed ND adults
Understanding Your Wiring
Autism, ADHD, AuDHD — and What They Actually Look Like in Adults
These are not childhood conditions that adults age out of. They are lifelong neurological differences that shape how you process information, emotion, sensory input, and relationships — often in ways that go unrecognized for decades, especially in women, BIPOC, and LGBTQIA+ adults.
You've been masking for years
You've learned to perform neurotypicality so well that most people have no idea what it actually costs you. You're tired of carrying that.
- Sensory sensitivities to light, sound, or touch
- Craving routine and predictability to feel calm
- Feeling deeply confused by small talk or emotional ambiguity
- Wondering if your experience of the world is fundamentally different
ADHD in Adults
You constantly lose track of time, can't finish projects, feel flooded by your own thoughts — and blame yourself for what's actually a neurological difference.
- Executive function challenges — task initiation, planning, organization
- Emotional reactivity and frustration
- Difficulty following through with good intentions
- Restlessness or daydreaming that disrupts work and relationships
AuDHD — Both Together
Roughly 50–70% of autistic individuals also meet criteria for ADHD. The overlap creates a presentation that doesn't fit either profile alone — and is frequently missed.
- ADHD drives novelty-seeking while autism craves sameness
- Burnout arrives faster and lasts longer
- Anxiety, RSD, and emotional flooding often coexist
- A persistent sense that something is "off" — even after one diagnosis
What We Work On Together
A Space That Doesn't Ask You to Be Anyone Other Than Who You Are
This isn't therapy that tries to make you more neurotypical. It works with your wiring — your sensory needs, your processing style, your communication patterns, your rhythm. Sessions are paced to your nervous system. Nothing is rushed.
Late diagnosis & identity
Processing the relief, grief, anger, and recalibration that comes with finally having language for who you are — and who you've always been.
Unmasking & autistic burnout
Understanding what masking costs you — and what it means to begin unmasking safely, at your own pace, without losing the relationships and roles that matter.
Nervous system regulation
Learning what your particular nervous system needs — and how to give it that without shame, apology, or over-explanation.
RSD, alexithymia & PDA
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, difficulty identifying emotions from the inside (alexithymia), and Pathological Demand Avoidance — named, understood, and worked with directly.
Trauma & complex PTSD
Many neurodivergent adults carry relational and institutional trauma from years of being misunderstood. This work holds that with real care.
Self-trust & self-advocacy
Learning to know what you need, name it, and ask for it — without over-explaining, apologizing, or collapsing under the weight of other people's reactions.
The Framework at the Heart of This Work
The Neurodivergent Spiral of Life
Blaze created the Neurodivergent Spiral of Life from 40+ years of lived experience and clinical practice. Unlike linear models of growth and healing, the Spiral honors that neurodivergent development is cyclical — and that returning to the same place at a deeper level is not regression. It's exactly how this kind of growth works.
The Spiral gives clients a map — seven layers of understanding that help you see where you are, what's been holding you, and what the next layer of clarity and safety looks like from here.
No other practice uses this framework. It's one of the things that makes this work genuinely different.
Therapeutic approaches used:
- Neurodivergent Spiral of Life
- Trauma-Informed Care
- Internal Family Systems
- Nervous System Regulation
- Somatic Approaches
- Attachment Science
- Brain-Informed Care
- Emotionally Focused Therapy
Navigating Adulthood with Neurodivergence
Life Doesn't Pause for Your Nervous System. So We Bring the Work to Real Life
The goal isn't symptom management. It's a life that actually works for how you're wired — in your work, your relationships, and your daily rhythms.
Employment & Productivity
- Workplace accommodations that actually fit
- Energy pacing and executive function strategies
- Advocacy tools for meetings and deadlines
- Time blindness and task initiation support
- Navigating disclosure decisions
Relationships & Social Life
- Relational scripts that feel safe, not performed
- Managing rejection sensitivity and shutdowns
- Rebuilding social life around your values
- Navigating friendships, dating, and family dynamics
- Understanding how your wiring shapes attachment
Health, Identity & Self-Worth
- Medical trauma and sensory overwhelm in appointments
- Gender exploration through a neurodivergent lens
- Reclaiming joy, rest, and autonomy
- Processing alexithymia and emotional awareness
- Self-compassion that doesn't require fixing
How It Works
Therapy Paced for Your Nervous System — Not a Standard Template
No two clients are alike. The work is co-created around your needs, your energy levels, your goals, and your wiring. Sessions are paced. You set the rhythm. Nothing is rushed toward resolution before you're ready for it.
"A space to slow down and begin to notice who you're actually being — beneath the adapting, the effort, and the years of trying to fit in."
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Clarity & Connection Zoom
A free 20-minute call. No forms, no pressure. A real conversation about where you are and whether this is the right fit.
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Building the Full Picture
We take real time to understand your history, your wiring, your patterns — without rushing to solutions. This is where we map what's actually been happening.
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Psychoeducation & Wiring
Early sessions include real psychoeducation — understanding how your particular neurodivergent brain works — because that understanding changes everything.
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Ongoing Sessions
Weekly or biweekly. We go where you actually need to go — not where a standard protocol says you should. Your pace, your priorities.
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Building a Life That Fits
The goal is a life that actually works for how you're wired — relationships, work, daily rhythms, and a sense of yourself you can trust.
Common Questions
You Might Be Wondering…
Do I need a diagnosis to begin therapy?
No. We can begin with your lived experience. A diagnosis can be helpful but is never required to start. If you're exploring whether to pursue one, I offer adult Autism and ADHD assessments for California residents — and some clients pursue that as part of the therapy process.
What if I don't feel "autistic enough" or "ADHD enough"?
You are enough. Masking, late diagnosis, and internalized doubt are extremely common — and we can work through them together. This is a space for self-alignment, not self-assimilation.
Will I be pushed to change who I am?
Never. This is a space for self-trust, not conformity. The goal is alignment with who you actually are — not a version of yourself that fits neurotypical expectations better.
I've tried therapy before and it didn't help. Why would this be different?
Standard therapy culture was largely designed by and for neurotypical people — and many neurodivergent clients have had that experience of sitting across from someone who doesn't quite get it. This work starts from neurodivergent reality, not neurotypical assumptions. That's a different kind of therapy.
Do you work with couples as well as individuals?
Yes. About 80% of this practice is couples — neurodiverse couples therapy is one of the core areas of specialization. If you'd like to explore both individual and couples support, we can talk through what makes sense for your situation.
Do you accept insurance?
Insurance is not accepted directly. Out-of-pocket payment is required. A Superbill is provided after each session for potential reimbursement. It's worth asking your insurer about out-of-network mental health benefits before we begin.
Your Therapist
Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, MA, LMFT
I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#151788), neurodivergent specialist, and founder of Love on the Autism Spectrum. I discovered my own neurodivergence at 57 — and that realization reframed everything. Not as a problem to solve. As a homecoming.
I hold a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology from Sofia University, with advanced training in Autism, ADHD, and Complex Trauma. I'm the creator of the Neurodivergent Spiral of Life and the author of Unmasked Self-Acceptance: 365 Days of Coming Home to Who You Really Are. Before my clinical career, I spent 20 years in Fortune 500 leadership — neurodivergent the entire time, without the language for it.
My work is trauma-informed, neurodiversity-affirming, and grounded in one belief: neurodivergent people don't need to be fixed. They need to be understood.
LMFT #151788
MA Counseling Psychology · Sofia University
Telehealth · California Only
Late-Identified Neurodivergent at 57
Creator · Neurodivergent Spiral of Life
Author · Unmasked Self-Acceptance
Continue Exploring
Other Ways We Can Work Together
If a different format fits where you are right now, here's what else is available.
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Couples Therapy & Coaching
Ongoing weekly support for neurodiverse couples ready to understand each other's wiring.
Partners of Neurodivergent Adults
Individual therapy for late-diagnosed AuDHD adults — unmasking, identity, self-trust.
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Balance & Bonding Retreat
A two-day private intensive — virtual or in-person — for one neurodiverse couple.
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The Love Lab
An ongoing weekly group for 3–4 neurodiverse couples — small, intentional, real attention.
Ready to Begin?
You Don't Have to Keep Explaining Yourself
The Clarity & Connection Zoom is a free, no-pressure 20-minute conversation. We'll talk about where you are and whether this could be the right fit.
No intake forms. No clinical distance. Just a real conversation.
"Take a breath. Settle in. I'm so glad you're here."